Pay Attention
This is the single best piece of advice and it relates to pretty much all of life. Pay attention.
The details matter during weddings, which is why it’s your job to have meaningful conversations with your clients before the day to understand family dynamics, bereavements and possibilities of friction. You are a hired professional, an outsider. The couple know you, but the guests don’t, bare that in mind. If a guest is having a difficult moment, it’s your professional duty to TRY and get a picture, but if you feel that it’s too intrusive, you must do the decent human thing, and let it go. Remember, people will forget what you say or do, but they will never forget how you made them feel. If you make someone deeply uncomfortable during a vulnerable moment, they will remember that forever.
Be punctual and professional
Arrive on time and dress appropriately for the occasion. Your appearance and punctuality reflect on your professionalism and can influence the couple’s perception of your work.
Adhere to venue rules and regulations
Familiarize yourself with the rules and regulations of the wedding venue, particularly regarding photography restrictions, and adhere to them. If you’re unsure about any regulations, consult with the venue staff or the couple to clarify.
This is important, because whilst it might not be a problem for you on the day, it will be a problem for the next photographer who shoots there. If you are difficult, or try to bend the rules, venues are much more likely to clamp down harder in the future, making all of our lives harder. Don’t be an arse, basically. You’re part of a team now, a team who you’ll probably never meet, but you are part of the community and it’s your job to represent and lift up the image of wedding photography and wedding photographers as a group.
Be courteous to guests and other vendors
Treat wedding guests and fellow vendors with respect and courtesy. Work cooperatively with other professionals to ensure the day runs smoothly and avoid monopolizing the couple’s time or obstructing the view of guests during key moments. Your job is to document, but your job is to also create an experience. Guests have been invited to be a part of that experience, so where possible don’t get in their way of significant moments. If it can’t be avoided, then get in, get your shot and get out.
Respect cultural and religious customs
Take the time to learn about any cultural or religious customs relevant to the wedding, and adjust your approach accordingly. This might involve adapting your photography style, avoiding certain subjects, or adhering to specific dress codes. This is particularly relevant in Sikh or Jewish weddings where you may be required to wear a head covering. In some cultures you will have to take your shoes off too to enter the temple, so wear decent socks!
Maintain confidentiality
Never share your clients’ personal information or photos without their consent. This includes social media posts, blog features, or using images for marketing purposes. Obtain written permission before sharing any content related to the wedding.
Avoid conflicts of interest
Be transparent about any potential conflicts of interest, such as personal relationships or prior commitments. Ensure your clients are aware of these factors and are comfortable proceeding under the given circumstances. I once worked on a wedding where I had dated the brides sister who of course was going to be a key part of the day, I told them upfront and all was fine, no-one cared. But could you imagine if I hadn’t asked?
Deliver on promises
Uphold the terms of your contract and deliver your services as promised. If unforeseen circumstances arise, communicate promptly with your clients and strive to find a solution that satisfies both parties.
Strive for continued improvement
Commit to ongoing professional development, seeking opportunities to hone your skills, learn new techniques, and stay informed about industry trends and best practices. This dedication to excellence will benefit both your clients and your reputation as a wedding photographer.
By adhering to these ethics and etiquette guidelines, you’ll be able to navigate the world of wedding photography with professionalism, respect, and sensitivity, ultimately resulting in satisfied clients and, more importantly, a satisfied YOU. If you are happy in your life and happy in your work, you will continue to develop and grow without it feeling like a grind. Be true to yourself and stay the course, success will come.